Rejection–how to deal with it

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dancing, rejection

Rejection can be scary–especially if you focus on a single girl. I have a story.

Last Sat. night I approached girls to ask them to dance. They were 20-something, blonde, with too much makeup, showing lots of skin. Seven rejections, right off the bat. I finally saw a girl I knew who wanted to dance, so we danced. I get a lot of compliments on my dancing. I can dance with all skill levels, from girls with two left feet to dance instructors. And I danced with all skill levels Sat. night. Over 20 different girls. At the end of the night, my last five dances were with girls who wanted to dance close and cuddly. All in their 20s and 30s. All pretty, but not too much makeup.

I’m old enough to be their grandfather.

Lessons:

1. I don’t focus on a single girl. I don’t invest much emotion in any single approach. So if I get a rejection, it’s not the end of the world, although it can be disappointing and frustrating for it to happen the first seven times. 🤣
2. Dance with someone you know. This allows you to show off your charm and skill on the dance floor. If you can make a girl laugh and shine and smile and turn, you will advertise your own skill and charm for the girls watching. And you will increase your value with your dance partner.
   Many other girls will want to dance with you as a result.
3. Look for women who are physically active near the dance floor. They may be tapping their feet or bouncing slightly. Don’t worry about their looks if this is your first dance of the night. Show off your ability to make a girl laugh and smile. And show off your dance skill if you have some.