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Good feelings are great if you are master if your feelings. However, if you let your feelings control you, then it’s easy to get trapped by your feelings. Good feelings can trap you into cycles of dependency just as bad feelings like depression and despair can trap you into a life of emptiness and powerlessness. Recreational drugs can cause good feelings which create addiction. We cannot control our feelings directly with our will–so how do we make our feelings submit to our will?

Action. Our actions are controlled by our will, but our feelings follow our actions. Psychologist and philosopher William James expressed this idea well. “Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.” In other words, we can decide to take action and our feelings will follow suit, over time.