I was out dancing at my new favorite country venue. First, I danced with ten or so different women. Some were attractive and some not. The key is to dance with quite a few women. The more women a man dances with, the more desirable he will be as a dance partner. And lead/follow dance is always, at some level, vicarious sex. (Sexual attraction isn’t necessarily involved, but it often is involved in causing a woman to accept a dance request.) Hence, preselection becomes involved when a man dances with multiple women. The more, the merrier, the higher his sexual attractiveness because of preselection. If there are a lot of people at the venue, practicality will force you to limit your partners.
I started narrowing down my partners. One left. She’s a great dancer. However, she was drinking wine and wasn’t dancing so well. Too bad.
Another is friendly to me, but not that attractive, and if I pay her too much attention, it would bring undesired attention from her. Two dances and she was out.
One I danced with and she refused my second request because she was chatting. Not a great dancer and not attractive.
Another is somewhat attractive and I have known her a while, but she refused my dance request.
So I settled down to two partners who both dance well. I was instructing one of them about dancing east coast swing and she followed very well. A young, pretty girl–maybe early thirties. I had just met her that night through one of my other partners. We danced about ten or so dances together–sometimes three in a row.
The other dancer was a good two-stepper. I took her through some power moves and she performed well. She’s attractive and in her forties. She giggles a lot. I like her–she’s fun.
Once when I was walking over to ask the two-stepper to dance, another woman caught my eye. I smiled and passed on and asked the two-stepper to dance. Later, the woman who had caught my eye (I’ll call her ‘C’ for “cold approach”) approached me and begged me to dance with her. I was willing to at the first, but she didn’t give me a chance to say “yes” and just kept trying to persuade me to dance with her. I told her Ok and said I would chat with her while the line dance was going on.
C was a pretty good dancer and lived in a rural area where there weren’t a lot of good dancers. C also leaned into me heavily as we chatted and chatted cheek to cheek. Flirty. She also moved to dance close with me once. Flirty. C was around 40 and attractive. At the end of the evening, I told her I had to hustle home and she said that she’d like to dance again with me when she’s in town.