Mrs. Gamer confessed to me that she had had a crush on a man at her workplace decades ago after we had married. She said that he would show up occasionally in her environment as part of his duties and that she was very taken with him. Sometimes she would see him in the halls and would avoid him–hide in a utility room or whatever. Mrs. Gamer is a relatively good girl.
However, I was surprised that Mrs. Gamer said that she never thought about her crush other than when he was in her immediate vicinity. This caused me to wonder if she was back-rationalizing or was giving an accurate self-report.
Any other women who have had crushes as adults want to relate their experiences? Did you think about your crush when not around him? What was the impact of your crush on you?