“Preselection” is how women are affected by the opinions of other women about a man’s sexual attractiveness. Women respond to attractive men differently than to unattractive men. When women see how other women respond to a man, this affects their estimate of a man’s sexual attractiveness.
Men don’t work the same way. Men are affected by a woman’s beauty, age, and sluttishness. The opinions of other men don’t affect a man’s estimate of a woman’s sexual attractiveness.
In the Song of Solomon, we see women speaking about the incredible attractiveness of the male lover. We do not find a corresponding group of men speaking about the female lover.
your name is oil poured out;
therefore virgins love you. (SoS 1:3)
Where has your beloved gone,
O most beautiful among women?
Where has your beloved turned,
that we may seek him with you? (SoS 6:1)
Notice that in the first reference, the female lover knows about the interest of the unmarried women. In the second reference, the women are speaking with the female lover.